BY TIM STEWART
free yourself from yourself
12 principles to inner peace
The understanding & application of Spiritual Principles are tools we use to create our own inner peace, discover our purpose and maintain freedom from active addictions.
The Free Yourself From Yourself 12 Principles should be practiced in our everyday living in an effort to live a lifestyle of integrity, morality and freedom from diseased thinking. The FyFy 12 principles are applicable for anyone seeking to live a higher quality of life; they work!
We should all be familiar with the word ‘Honesty’. Honestly is one of the most important spiritual paths to recovery. Staying and being honest to yourself and people around you gives a spiritual and mental liberation. Honesty cuts through deceit and is the antidote for diseased thinking. You should practice honesty today by not lying, covering up the truth, or leaving anything out.
The principle of Courage reflects Boldness, Fearless, Daring and Determination. Saying out the word alone strengthens your guts to overcome life challenges. It makes you bold and fearless! Do not ever believe you cannot. Have you tried recovering from addiction and you failed? TRY AGAIN! This time, be courageous and fearless. Courageous people pull through difficult life experiences even when at risk. Being courageous is a huge step to mental freedom.
The principle of Humility is almost always misinterpreted. Most people think humility means being looked down on or feeling inferior but not at all! Humility means being humble and being able to put others before you. It is actually an act of leadership. Being humble helps you handle mental stress effortlessly. Yes! It can feel awkward at first, but afterwards, you will feel good about yourself and how you treat others.
The principle of Acceptance means that you have admitted defeat, you have agreed to be true to yourself and admitted that you are powerless over your addictions. By doing so, we consciously relinquish the control over to a spiritual higher power that we believe will lead us down a safe path.
Hope is an optimistic state of mind in anticipation of a positive outcome in one’s life. This simply means that Hope comes to you in times of mental crisis, distress, and need. Have a quiet time and express your hope that things will work out positively as they should. Nurture that tiniest hope and then prepare to experience and outbursts of positive happiness and empowerment. Hope with confidence!
The principle of Integrity means having a strong moral compass. Integrity is honesty, with a strong set of morals. A deceitful person lacks integrity. Lack of integrity builds up dishonesty, self-denial and tampers with your physical and mental morals. Practicing this spiritual principle helps you remain honest and undivided.
The principal of Discipline is an education that corrects, perfects and aligns our mental faculties. Self-discipline controls our reactions towards certain situations, even when nobody is watching. By practicing self-discipline, we gain consciousness of when and how to act. Spiritual discipline guides us in taking the right actions towards achieving an aim. Not having self-discipline can be chaotic and causes regrettable acts.
KNOWLEDGE & AWARENESS
We are all expected to have knowledge of our spiritual principle and be aware of the role and mental wellness it brings to our lives. You can’t expect what you do not acknowledge to work for you. Learn your spiritual principles today and kick start your journey to recovery.
Faith is a very powerful spiritual principle. The slogan ‘Faith that moves mountains’ depicts how powerful that tiniest faith can be. Faith gives complete spiritual confidence Faith works side by side with Hope. Putting hope into a power(spiritual) greater than yourself is Faith. You practice faith by prayer, meditating, speak, and believing your spiritual power.
The principle of Willingness is about being readily prepared; physically and mentally to do something. There is a slogan ‘The body is willing but the spirit isn’t’. Yes! You must be physically and spiritually willing to take that positive route to mental freedom in order to experience a positive change. You can recover from that addiction, if only you are willing.
The principle of Forgiveness liberates the Forgiver and not the other way round. By practicing forgiveness we release ourselves from mental misery. Forgiveness is not about condoning what someone has done; it is about letting go. It is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of vengeance towards a person that offended you, regardless of the offense. Forgiveness goes a very long way in our spiritual lives by helping us reclaim our mental energy.
The principle of Gratitude is the spiritual principle of recovery that many people cite as the main principle that keeps them sober. Every day is a gift; every breath is a gift; every hour is a gift. Be grateful for what you have, what you receive, and how far you’ve gone. Maintaining an attitude of Gratitude is often practiced by providing acts of service; talking and sharing your experiences with someone. There’s something very uplifting that comes with practicing the principle of Gratitude and performing acts of service.
about the book
Free Yourself From Yourself (FyFy) is a book and program about learning how to live a life free from active addiction. FyFy is not about a specific type of addiction as they all have the same foundation, our thinking, which must be our primary focus for recovery.
When we discover our purpose, which is discovered simultaneously when we discover our gift, this gives our lives meaning and value. Therefore, we don’t have the need to find fulfillment in life by creating destructive habits like addiction to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, and food, the list just goes on and on, but the “root cause” is the same for all of these.
With the understanding and application of Spiritual Principles discussed in this book, we free ourselves from ourselves when we release the gift trapped inside of us put there by our CREATOR. Everything in creation was created for greatness that is achieved by the release or delivery of our GIFT. Un-trapping our gift, the inherent capacity to fulfill a function that meets a need in creation gives us our purpose for being on the planet; we all landed here on this planet to fulfill purpose.
At the age of 40, I found myself homeless, hopeless and penniless. I had 2 pair of pants, 2 shirts and about $8 dollars in my pocket. I had been in the Air Force, attended NYU, worked for IBM and UPS, spent a number of years in corporate America, yet I was very broken human being. I was spiritually, emotionally and physically bankrupt. The good life was a thing of the past, and I felt broken, in despair and I felt like giving up on life. Have you been there?
You know there’s more to life, but you’re not sure how to reach out and grab it. Maybe you’re stuck in a rut or trapped in a relationship, job or financial situation that seems hopeless. Perhaps you’ve lost your edge and desire a life that’s richer, deeper and more fulfilling. Addiction might be holding you firm in its grasp while damaging your relationships, job performance and physical health. You could be living a great life but feel unsatisfied, hungry for something and unable to enjoy your blessings.
about the author
My primary goal is to help others achieve theirs by breaking free from active addictions that has robbed the lives they were meant to live from the day they were born. As a coach, I help people discover their gifts, which leads to the discovery of their purpose. Through a series of exercises, saying exactly what’s needed to be heard and teaching how to nurture words into actions that yield fruit, we make progress.
TalkManTalk is here to help you achieve, ignite, and upgrade your life. With a deep understanding of people's anxiety, fears, depression, and pain I walk with everyone that comes to me through the journey until they can continue their journey alone. As an Addiction Recovery Coach, I work from experience, training and expertise and this unbeatable combination has been the secret to the success of TalkManTalk over the years.
what our readers are saying
“I think this book will not only be useful to those in recovery, but also to the family members of those in recovery. Although I PERSONALLY have not had the experience, my brother has; he is recovering too, and now has eleven years clean and sober. And so much of Tim's story is parallel to his. Many trips through rehab before it finally stuck, and getting to his ‘rock bottom’ was not pretty! Tim breaks all of this down in an easy-to-understand way, and I am gaining a lot of new knowledge from it. So many of the people I know in recovery have tried in so many ways to help me better understand their experiences, and they have not been able to find the right words—other than saying that it profoundly changed their lives. But Tim's words showed me what I needed to understand.”
- Randy D. ★★★★★
"Timothy Stewart draws you into the book with his own personal story. I admire that he is not prideful at all, but he lays his soul bare before the reader. He is not afraid to admit that he was an addict who hurt a lot of people. This story of redemption is very inspiring, and I know it will be inspiring for addicts in particular. He then goes on to explain twelve spiritual principles to help people on the road to recovery. The principles make a lot of logical sense, and really, anyone can benefit from practicing them. Also, the exercises in the book were clearly articulated and easy to follow. I would recommend this book to anyone struggling with addiction or to the families of those struggling with addiction."
- JJ m. ★★★★★
Free Yourself From Yourself by Timothy Stewart is a commendable articulation of a recovery process. I personally was addicted to smoking and alcohol habits and wanted to quit for a very long time, though fortunately in the pandemic I was able to control the frequency and almost had the control to quit all my bad habits. However, the cravings and longings towards the ill substances were always there. What I learnt from the book is how we can easily control our ill cravings and the way the writer had shared his experiences, I was completely able to relate it with mine. To a great extent reading this book had helped me to stay determined, positively charged and truthful to oneself. If you want to learn the psychological process to quit addiction just give this book a fair try, you will not regret it.”
- pradip s. ★★★★★
“Tim's writing style is very well suited to the task. He gives just enough information to encourage the reader to think and apply the ideas to the exercises, which I felt were the real point of the book. He is neither high-falutin' nor excessively folksy. I thought his ability to keep to the point was admirable, in fact, he gives personal information but always manages to turn it to something the reader can use, something universal.”
- anne c. ★★★★★
The only book you need to become free! The Book is not only helpful for those recovering from addiction, it is so well written and researched, it will definitely give you insights about our Life's Journey. Being a book lover, it was a new genre for me over all. But, I thoroughly enjoyed reading. It will make you Believe in Yourself again. The reason why people hide away from themselves is so well explained. It's not just a Book, it's a Journey which the Author has portrayed in a beautiful manner and revealed many truths of our Life which helps the reader to grow and gives a new perspective towards the World. I would highly recommend this book.
- nisha k. ★★★★★
“As a recovering addict, I found this book really useful. The twelve principles gave me a deeper context for understanding the why and how behind recovery. I also like Tim’s down-to-earth writing style. I felt like he was (and is) in my corner. My journey isn’t over, but I feel better equipped to handle the ups and downs now. I hope to meet and work with Tim personally someday. I feel like he’d be a great coach.”
- mark c. ★★★★★